Friday, March 22, 2013

Conquering Obstacles for a Fulfilled Future

We've attended several weddings over the past year ,(each one more unique and fabulous than the last!) and at each event we met people who were either close to retirement age (which was defined by them as being between 60-72), or were retired already and wondering what's next? Each man or woman, whether we were sitting and waiting for the ceremony to start, enjoying a glass of champagne or out on the dance floor, yes, even on the dance floor, we were tracked down, and questioned about how do you get it right in your next act? These people were not panicking, but they admittedly were nervous about the future.

The general theme was: "Everybody tells you to save money----ok, we've done it. We know where we want to live; we want to stay right where we are but travel more. But the media makes the future sound easy, but let me tell you I'm no kid and I've discovered that I'm more than a little scared."

We didn't want to turn the wedding into a focus group, so we kiddingly said, "One of the greatest obstacles to rewiring is ourselves.  Everyone needs to get out of their own way."  We put together a list of obstacles that can lead to emotional paralysis. Sometimes by acknowledging our own reality we can overcome these obstacles.  If the obstacle is deep seated enough it may require counseling.  Do any of these apply to you? Either way getting over the obstacle can lead to a fulfilling and joyful future.  Isn't it worth trying!!! 
  • Lack of confidence ----self doubt
  • Fear of failure and perfectionism
  • Procrastination
  • Anxiety
  • Indecision and indecisiveness
  • Depression
  • Immobilization 
  • Rigidity: unwillingness to compromise or to be flexible
  • Aversion to risk taking 
  • Impatience
  • Lack of motivation  
  • Difficulty getting organized and feeling overwhelmed
  • Inability to set priorities
  • Difficulty tolerating frustration

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