Precious Time

Lately we have been getting a flurry of emails from readers pertaining to time. Some say retirement is too much time to fill. Others say there is too little time to do everything they want to do.  Some push off projects because they think they "have all the time in the world." We also hear "where did all the time go?" We thought you might appreciate this poem that was in one of the emails that was sent to us. It says it best about the value of time. We don't know who wrote it, but offer our thanks to the author. 

"Barely the day started and

it's already six in the evening.

Barely arrived on Monday

and it's already Friday.

.. and the month is already over.

.. and the year is almost over.

.. and already 40, 50 or 60 years

of our lives have passed.

.. and we realize that we lost

our parents, friends.

.. and we realize it's too late

to go back.

So.. Let's try, despite

everything, to enjoy

the remaining time.

Let's keep looking for

activities that we like.

Let's put some color in

our grey.

Let's smile at the little

things in life that put

balm in our hearts.

And despite everything,

we must continue to enjoy

with serenity this time we

have left.

Let's try to eliminate the

afters..

I'm doing it after.

I'll say after.

I'll think about it after.

We leave everything for

later like ′′ after ′′ is ours.

Because what we don't

understand is that:

Afterwards, the coffee

gets cold.

afterwards, priorities change.

Afterwards, the charm is

broken.

Afterwards, health passes.

Afterwards, the kids grow up.

Afterwards parents get old.

Afterwards, promises are

forgotten.

Afterwards, the day becomes

the night.

Afterwards, life ends.

And then it's often too late.

So.. Let's leave nothing for

later.

Because still waiting to see

later, we can lose the

best moments, the best

experiences, best friends,

the best family.

The day is today. The

moment is now.

We are no longer at the

age where we can afford

to postpone what needs

to be done right away."

It Looks Like An Eternity,

But It's A Short Trip,

Enjoy Life And Always

Be Kind.

REWIRING Your Brain on Music

We love music. It's a powerful ally for the aging brain, offering a wide range of cognitive, emotional, social, and physical benefits. Incorporating music into our daily life can help us stay sharp, happy, and connected to others. The list of positives is exceptional, and it doesn't matter what kind of music you like to hear or play. Music can help make your REWIRED journey even sweeter.

Music activates various areas of the brain involved in memory, attention, and executive function. Cognitive stimulation can help us maintain and even improve our cognitive abilities. Music has a unique ability to evoke memories and emotions. Remembering the songs of our past is great fun. We can even remember a lot of the lyrics and sing along. Music has a profound effect on our mood. It can uplift our spirits, reduce anxiety and depression. 

Socializing is so important. Music has a way of bringing us together. Whether through group singing, dancing, or attending concerts. Playing musical instruments or engaging in activities like dancing requires coordination and motor skills. Musical activities can help us maintain and improve our motor function, balance, and coordination.

Research has shown that music can promote neuroplasticity, the brain's ability to reorganize and form new neural connections. This is particularly important as it can help offset age-related changes in the brain and help us maintain cognitive function. 

Ultimately, music enhances our quality of life. Whether through active participation or passive listening, music brings joy, meaning, and fulfillment, and promoting healthy aging.

OK. Now turn on some tunes and get ready to feel better!!

When it Rains Stress

Hello, 2025

We have been hearing from our Don’t Retire, REWIRE! readers that they are looking forward to a New Year and hoping for less stress.  It seems 2024 was a time of a lot of highs and lows. Some reported that it seemed that every time they speak with someone, they were hearing bad news; someone is sick, someone has died, or so and so has family problems. The list goes on. Several people said they are afraid to pick up the phone for the fear of hearing more bad news.  It can be overwhelming to add the stress of others to your own. After all, most everyone has something going on in their own life that is challenging, anxiety provoking, or stressful.  

Being surrounded by bad news, whether it's from family, friends, or the world around us, can feel emotionally draining. When it feels like the "sky is falling," it’s important to find ways to protect your well-being while still being compassionate to those who are reporting their problems. Remember the Charlie Brown cartoon character Pig Pen who always walked around with a cloud of dust and dirt surrounding him? Unfortunately, there are some people like Pig Pen, but their clouds aren’t dust, but stress: their own and from others who they feel an obligation to report on.

You need to set some healthy boundaries as best we can and limit your exposure to negativity. It’s okay to step back from conversations or interactions that consistently bring you down. For example, you can kindly excuse yourself from a phone call or change the subject if it's too much. Be intentional about the people and situations you engage with. Offer support where you can and recognize when you need to take a break. Offering support doesn’t mean you need to “fix” their problems. Sometimes, just being present and compassionate is enough.

Live in the now.  Feelings of being overwhelmed often come from worrying about things beyond the present moment. If it gets too hard, share your feelings with a trusted friend, a support group, or a therapist. Just voicing how overwhelming things feel can lighten the burden.  Concentrate on what you can control. You can’t control the bad news, but you can control how you respond.  Speaking of news, watching TV or following the news obsessively on the internet is a formula for depression. Take a break and turn off your devices from time to time.  The world will keep spinning. Don’t let bad news or anyone steal your dreams.

Focus on your own life to make it as positive as possible. Go and have some fun. Remember good things are happening around us every day, but they’re often overshadowed by a phone call or the world news. Take care of yourself whether that’s a walk outside, exercising, enjoying time with positive friends, spending some time on a hobby or a sport, or watching a funny movie. Do what brings you joy and fulfillment. actively add things into your day that make you smile.

REWIRING is a journey with ups and downs, surprises, opportunities and occasional curves in the road.  Yes, it’s called life. 

Grandparenting As You REWIRE!

REWIRING! has many facets. Grandparenting is one of them that offers great joys and sometimes unanticipated stress. Being a grandparent and a retiree can present a unique set of challenges, despite the anticipation of enjoying more time with grandchildren. While retirement offers the freedom to devote yourself to family, it also coincides with trying to balance your own needs with that of your family.  

Physical limitations and health concerns may put up some barriers. Keeping up with the energy and pace of young children can be physically demanding. Aches and pains from bending and lifting, playing, and chasing are familiar feelings for a lot of grandparents. Get out the Advil or the Tylenol!

The role of grandparents has evolved significantly. Navigating unfamiliar territory, such as step grand parenting or long-distance relationships due to relocation can also add a lot stress. Striking the right balance between offering support and respecting the autonomy of your adult children in parenting decisions can be cumbersome. Additionally, as retirees, grandparents may face financial constraints that limit their ability to provide for their grandchildren in the same way they could when working provided more disposable income. Slipping money to a grandchild for a new pair of sneakers may become a financial hardship. Just look at some of the price tags today.

While grandchildren bring immense joy and fulfillment, they may also serve as reminders of the passage of time and the shifting dynamics within your family. Retired grandparents may grapple with feelings of nostalgia for lost youth or concern for the future well-being of grandchildren. You don't necessarily long to be a kid again, but you may begin to mourn the passage of time. There can be other stress, as well, when the grandkids refuse to listen or worse call you out as "so out of touch." That stings like a lash.

Enjoy the kids. Somehow things work out even if they don't listen. Relish their smiles and laughter. Help them dry their tears and celebrate their victories. Whether in person or on the phone, or through text or FaceTime, stay connected. They just want to be loved. So do you.

Having Purpose Can be the Elixir of Life

Having a purpose in life is a major key to happiness and a propellant to REWIRE! Retirement often signals the end of purpose for many people.  The happiest retirees are those that find a new purpose that is fulfilling and nourishing.  Without purpose there is an emptiness that leads to boredom and depression.  Purpose is important for several reasons, as it provides direction, motivation, and helps create a full life.

A clear purpose acts like a compass, guiding your decisions and actions. It helps you prioritize what matters most and avoid distractions. Knowing your purpose allows you to focus your energy on what truly aligns with your values and goals. Purpose fuels motivation. When you have a strong sense of why you are doing something, you're more likely to persevere through challenges and setbacks. This intrinsic motivation can drive you to achieve things that might otherwise seem impossible.

Life is full of ups and downs. Having a purpose helps you stay resilient in the face of adversity. It gives you something to hold onto when times are tough, making it easier to overcome obstacles and maintain a positive outlook. Purpose contributes to mental and emotional well-being by giving life meaning and reducing feelings of emptiness or confusion.

A purpose often requires you to grow, learn, and evolve. It pushes you out of your comfort zone and encourages continuous self-improvement. As you strive to fulfill your purpose, you develop new skills, gain knowledge, and become a better version of yourself.

Purpose often involves something greater than oneself, whether it's contributing to society, helping others, or being part of a community. This connection to something larger can foster a sense of belonging and strengthen relationships.When faced with difficult choices, a clear purpose can serve as a guiding principle. It helps you evaluate options based on how well they align with your purpose, leading to more consistent and satisfying decisions.

Ultimately, having a purpose gives life meaning. It provides a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment, knowing that your actions and efforts are contributing to something valuable. This sense of fulfillment is crucial for overall life satisfaction.

Having a purpose is important because it shapes who you are, what you do, and how you interact with the world around you. It’s a driving force that can make life more meaningful, rewarding, and impactful. REWIRE! with a purpose!!

 

Maintaining Work Connections After Your Retire

The decision to maintain work connections after retirement is a personal one. Whether it's important to maintain work connections after retirement depends on your personal goals and circumstances. It's important as you REWIRE! to have a social network. Work is where many of our friends reside. Ask yourself if you want to maintain relationships with colleagues after you retire? Some things you may want to consider as you make that decision:

Social Interaction: Work connections often form a significant part of your social network. If you enjoy the company of your colleagues and find value in maintaining those relationships for socializing, it will be important to keep in touch.

Professional Networking: Even in retirement, there may be opportunities where your professional network could be beneficial. This could include consulting opportunities, part-time work, or even volunteering in your field of expertise. Keeping in touch with your former colleagues can help you stay informed about such opportunities.

Mentorship and Guidance: You may have accumulated a wealth of knowledge and experience throughout your career. Maintaining connections with your colleagues who are still working can allow you to continue to be a mentor to them, which can be fulfilling and rewarding to them and you.

Personal Support: Work connections often provide emotional support during significant life changes, such as retirement. Staying in touch with former colleagues can offer a sense of continuity and support during this transition. Don't think retirement is all fun and games. It can be emotionally challenging. Periodically you may welcome the support.

Interest in Past Projects: If you were involved in ongoing projects or initiatives at work, you may want to have continued interest in your team's progress even after retirement. Keeping in touch with your former colleagues can allow you to stay informed. It's always nice to have them seek you out for advice or guidance. It can help you keep up your skills and learn new ones, as well.

Some retirees prefer to distance themselves from their former work life entirely and focus on new pursuits and relationships outside of the workplace. That's fine, too. It's your decision. You may change your mind about work when you're retired. Then you will wish you had stayed in touch. REWIRING is about making choices that will benefit you in the future. Think longer term when you make those choices.

REWIRE with a Pet?

Rick and I grew up with dogs and love animals.  After several years of married life, we decided to get a dog. Rick woke up the next day after our decision was made, looked down 34 stories from our apartment balcony and saw a man with an umbrella walking his dog in the pouring rain. When I got up the first thing he said was, "Let's get a cat." So we did. We ended up having over a period of 24 years two different cats: Jennifer and Sebastian (pictured above). We adopted them from the ASPCA in New York City.  We loved them!  We get asked by a lot of our readers should they get a pet in retirement?  This is what we tell them.

Ultimately, getting a pet can bring a lot of joy and companionship in retirement, but it’s essential to weigh the responsibilities and make sure it aligns with your lifestyle and future plans. If you decide to do it, do it the right way or not at all. Their lives depend on it.

Pets, especially dogs and cats, can provide great companionship, reducing feelings of loneliness and giving a sense of purpose.  There are a lot of health benefits. Studies have shown that pets can lower blood pressure, reduce stress, and improve overall cardiovascular health. Regular walks with a dog can help you stay active.

Having a pet can bring structure to your day with feeding, walks, and playtime, which can be beneficial in retirement. Walking a dog or visiting the vet can increase your social interactions with other pet owners and community members.  Walk in the park on any day and you can witness people talking to dog owners. Pets require time and attention, and their needs can sometimes limit your flexibility, especially for travel plans. Pets aren't inexpensive. They come with ongoing costs for food, grooming, vet visits, and potential emergency care. All things to be seriously considered.

Your physical ability to care for a pet, especially as you age, can be a challenge. Larger or more active pets may require more energy and strength. Think about the lifespan of your pet and ensure you can commit to caring for it for its entire life. Also, consider what might happen if your health or responsibilities change. You'll need a backup plan if something precludes you from caring for your pet.

You need to ask yourself how active do you want to be in retirement?  Are you planning to travel frequently? If so, do you have plans for pet care during your absence? 

What type of pet do you both enjoy? Dogs, cats, birds, fish, and small mammals all have different care requirements. Do you have any allergies or aversions to certain types of animals? Do you have friends, family, or neighbors who can help care for the pet if needed? Whew, that sounds like a lot. It is a lot, because it's so important.

If you decide a pet might be too much of a commitment but still want animal interaction, consider alternatives such as: Volunteering at a local animal shelter or rescue organization; Fostering pets temporarily until they find permanent homes; Pet-sitting for friends or family members. It's a good test market to try out being a pet parent.